He remains static as she lowers herself onto his head and takes a few deep breaths before sliding farther down his shaft. He assumes the same position behind her and adjusts his height so that the head of his rests below her bum. She places her hands on her knees or the bed for support. Jess explains, “She assumes a kneeling position with her butt cheeks on her heels and her knees spread wide open.

She recommends the modified doggy to give the receptive partner more control, support intimacy and provide the opportunity for double penetration. Jess has a different take on doggy-style anal sex. Always use plenty of lube and proceed slowly and gently.” Ransom adds, “Rub and stimulate your clitoris too to make it even more pleasurable.” The couple says, “Anal sex should never be painful. Patricia Johnson and Mark Michaels, co-authors of Designer Relationships, Partners in Passion, Great Sex Made Simple, Tantra for Erotic Empowerment and The Essence of Tantric Sexuality, recommend doggy style for first-timers and those who may have had an unpleasant experience before. Getting busy on all fours may be your best bet if you have attempted and found anal painful in the past. As the partner on the bottom, you can stay loose as you control penetration to increase pleasure. This position is most often associated with anal because it has major advantages. Her hand becomes an extension of her butt while providing a physical buffer to ensure only shallow penetration.” Jess, Ph.D.), author, international speaker and PlayboyTV’s sexologist, offers an alternative to the cowgirl in her book The New Sex Bible, “If she doesn’t like the sensation of deep penetration, but he desires more stimulation against the base of his shaft, she can reach backwards with a warm, wet hand to grasp the lower half of his shaft. It helps to have had an orgasm already and be highly aroused.”

Remember to go at an easy pace and stay relaxed. She explains, “This position will allow you to control the pace and depth that his penis goes inside of you.

Certified Master Sex Expert and Educator, Sex Coach and “So Tight” Sensual Fitness Personal Trainer Nikki Ransom endorses the cowgirl position for anal newbies.

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